BEFORE CRITICIZING A MAN,WALK A MILE IN HIS SHOES

Sattvik , a cute and decent boy of class 3rd was made to feel low for writing slow, for untidy work and not being attentive in the class by the teachers.He seemed a bit lost and he too started smiling less frequently.The golden childhood was getting lost somewhere.Once school principal managed to take EVS in the class.She observed the writing pattern of the boy and found the features similar to a dyslexic child.She called up her parents and asked for the proper treatment.Parents realizing the seriousness of the issue took him to the doctor and after some period of proper care and treatment ,Satvik started improving by leaps and bounds.
A simple story which depicts how often people criticize others without ever knowing the circumstances undergone by them.We are quick to categorize our relationships and label people as miser,selfish,short tempered,foolish,dumb.But we fail to recognize the causes behind it.
Have we ever realized that behind the misery lies the financial crunch which the person been facing since his childhood?,Have we ever realized that a short tempered child has been the victim of quarrels between his parents?,Addictions of youth are often the result of negligence and deprivation of love.
Before criticizing a man ,we must walk a mile in his shoes.Putting ourselves in their position and developing a sense of understanding helps strengthen the bonding between the individuals and grants space to others.
I recall English vinglish movie where the daughter always criticizes her mother for not being able to speak in English and take advantage of it every time,taking her mother for granted every time.Without ever realizing the emotions of mother being hurt.If that girl would have put her in mother’s place,she would have found her mother performing commendable job managing every thing superbly despite less knowledge of English and fulfilling her duties responsibly.
This is human tendency to criticize without ever considering the causes behind.often people blame government failing in governance not checking inflation,poverty, intolerance.But we fail to recognize the efforts of government in wake of our confined judgement.We end up blaming government for all the ills but fail to credit it for the positives.
Have we ever tried to put ourselves in the government position ,no because we need not.As we want to remain at the receiving end only,not taking onus of a responsible citizen by performing our dues and becoming a part of successful governance.
The same applies to government also. Government was quick to declare students of JNU as anti national on charges of sedition labelled against them without ever knowing the details behind anti India slogans.limiting the free speech in veil of sedition is not at all justifiable.What circumstances,who abetted them to raise slogans must be given attention before framing them under sedition.
Blame game would not lead anyone any where.Pan singh Tomar was an athlete and joined Indian army, but what led him resort to path of violence and plunder.Before labeling him with any title it is worth to know that his family members were murdered in a property dispute.His voice was not addressed but suppressed and crushed abetted him to take another form for making his voice heard.
But if every one would start opting this way for making his voice heard ,the only result would be devastation and huge destruction.What i want to convey is that before forming opinion before others we must look in to the struggles and situations they met.
For developing a broader outlook one must put oneself exactly in the same position to get acquaintance with the real picture.Success as an individual,as a state,as a nation in the era of globalization very much depends on the perception one has for others simultaneously giving proper space to others.For getting a holistic view one needs to see from other perspective as well for a better conclusion.Making fun for others for being short in height and for being unemployed but before taking the pleasure make sure how it feels like if you being mocked down and laughed at.Developing empathy for others instead of seeing the differences ,one must cherish the similarities.let them feel empowered too and progress.In order to empathize with others, it’s crucial to set aside your biases and generalizations, in order to see behind the faΓ§ade.Empathy can be learnt and it is never too late to learn.
” You never really know a man until you understand things from his point of view,until you climb in to his skin and walk around in it.”

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18 thoughts on “BEFORE CRITICIZING A MAN,WALK A MILE IN HIS SHOES

  1. 742 words– A little short.

    EVS — Full form needs to be mentioned.

    Avoid controversial matters like JNU.

    A movie–>>Public Policy–>>Our role–>> Govt.’s role–>>Pan Singh Tomar.

    Order can be improved.
    Rest is all good especially the conclusion.

    Keep up the good work πŸ™‚
    Review mine according to your convenience πŸ˜€

  2. Hello Jaya, my views-
    I can see improvement in many aspects i ur write up. Short para, flow thing, clear idea per para, and no beating around the bush, relevant examples mostly. These are the positives, so keep it up.
    Apart from that, maintain some connectivity between paras. Waise to kafi theek tha is baari.
    Also, in ur 3rd para, u have asked too many questions. I think we should avoid this.
    Plus, u can also give other dimensions like that of constructive criticism, criticizing on the face (not behind the back-then only it will make a difference), taking critics on positive note, etc. I think so. Waise to I din’t write today.
    Examples u gave were okay. Examples ke baare me more suggestions I cant give because abhi to yaad nahi aa rahe.
    But overall it was a good read. So keep it up and just some improvements here and there- take care of them.
    All the best (y) πŸ™‚

  3. Hey JAYA ma’am πŸ™‚

    Why did u write so less today?

    As already told by many not to use JNU.

    Ur example was apt, but u didn’t write much at all!

    Write more if u find some more dimensions. It is short and simple! U can include something more. I guess u couldn’t come up with examples that time. Koi nai. Next time πŸ™‚

    Review mine when u get time πŸ˜€

  4. Hi Jaya πŸ™‚
    kaise ho ?
    short and sweet essay
    It was engaging and interesting to read
    flaws about examples have been pointed out already
    simply loved the philo part..
    since you wrote short so multidimensional couldn’t be brought up.. don’t worry you write awesome (last time it was superbly awesome πŸ˜€ )

    have a look at my essay and be critical.. thank you πŸ™‚

  5. Hello Jayaaaaaaaa πŸ™‚ kaise ho!
    1) scroll karte hi mje laga ki essay is very small!! write a little badda next time please! i feel you’ll write very well!
    2) Sorry, late hua! match me busy tha! πŸ˜€
    3) intro is apt!
    4) english vinglish wala example really connected.(maybe kyunki mene movie dekhi h to mjhe connect ho gya ekdum se. anyhow Sridevi rocked the movie) πŸ˜€
    5) please dont take name of any political leader or any such thing which is in so much controversy! eg: JNU
    6) Conclusion is fine too! beech me connectivity sahi hai!! last time aapne example misplace kie the, is baar vaisa nhi h!! i feel thoda lamba likhna chahie! this is too short!!
    overall, it was good! keep writing Jaya!
    Review mine too when u get time!! ATB πŸ™‚

    • Hello Taaaaaaaahir πŸ™‚ achchi hun!! aap kaisae hain…
      1.Haan darti hun jyada bada likhne mein ki kahin out of sync na ho jaye but aage se dhyaan rakhungi..
      2. Congrats India won aur apka sorry apko hi mubarak( your words… :)) no need of it at all.
      3.Conntroversial examples ab se quote nahi karungi.
      4.Thanks a loads for review… going to review yours shortly……….. πŸ™‚

  6. Intro: very good
    English Vinglish: aptly used, very good
    JNU, did not appeal much, as here we are criticing the govt, and that on an issue which itself is not clear, so u can avoid that
    Pan singh tomar : good one
    I was absorbed in ur essay and suddenly it ended ;(
    U were going perfectly fine and then u stopped, as a reader that dissapointed me,
    but whaever u have written that is good
    Conclusion is superb πŸ™‚
    Thanks
    Om Shanti πŸ™‚

  7. hi jaya
    i think many mistakes have been already pointed out.
    i think your JNU example was fit here. but then you should have extended it to provide for good governance and ethical politics and democratic evolution of the nation.
    your essay is short
    but it was good, smooth and easy to read.
    cheers !!!

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